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Men are like parking spots: The good ones are taken, and the rest are handicapped. Well, it turns out, there really is a shortage of good men. Making the search for Mr. Right even more difficult. But why?
Seven Reasons Why Finding Mr. Right Is Actually Really Difficult:
1. Gender Imbalance On Campus
College seems like a good place to meet Mr. Right. However, in the US, nearly 57% of women and 43% of men hold a bachelor’s degree. College campuses are becoming less and less of a sausage fest, creating a huge gender imbalance. It’s simple: A well-educated woman wants a mate who is equally or more educated. Yeah, a rich girl falls in love with a mill worker in The Notebook. And a successful businessman sweeps a prostitute off her feet in Pretty Women. Ahhh, yes, the magic of cinema! But in reality, doctors marry doctors; lawyers marry lawyers; successful people marry successful people.
2. You Live In Manhattan
Central Park, The Metropolitan Museum of Art, and upscale candlelit restaurants, Manhattan seems like the perfect romantic city to find love. Not so much. First off, New York City’s population is 53% female and 47% male. Second, there are 38% more young female college grads than male. Factor in that 9-12% of men in Manhattan are gay, and it’s slim pickings for eligible bachelors. No wonder Sex and the City went on for six seasons straight.
3. Too Many Womanizers
Why would guys settle down when the supply of eligible women appears to be unlimited? Why waste time and money wooing her with romance? If she won’t spread her legs for you, on to the next one! Dating is a thing of the past, and hookup culture is here. Guys are taking advantage of the surplus of good women, running a pink taco stand with no intention of stopping. Ladies, the longer you settle for casual sex, the higher your chances are of ending up alone.
4. Go Get ‘Em, Tiger!
Chase you? I don’t even chase my liquor! Ladies, an attitude like that won’t get you very far. As much as we love to be chased, aggressive women are more likely to find Mr. Right. Traditionally, pursuing a man is a big no-no. With limited options, it’s time to get out of that mindset, and go after what you want!
5. Too Religious
Sorry, Jesus-lovers, finding Mr. Right is going to be even more of a challenge. That’s because most men are atheists. Maybe it’s time to deactivate your Christian Mingle account and use that $13.99/month for something more useful.
6. Wrong Job
You may be working in a female-dominated field like nursing, teaching, counseling, or event planning. Michael Rosenfeld, a Stanford sociologist, says that 10% of Americans meet their future partners at work. Maybe consider switching your career path to mechanical engineering (93% male), computer network administration (83%), or financial advising (74%).
7. You’re Picky AF
Your dream guy is handsome, wealthy, tall, athletic, funny, and smart, right? He’s out there somewhere! Just wait it out, he’ll come! Well, at the age of 40, for every 50 women, there are just 33 eligible men. No, that doesn’t mean you should settle for the next schmuck who falls into your lap. However, it’s important to keep an open mind. Grounding your decisions on reality and tweaking your fairytale vision of a relationship might just lure Mr. Right to your doorstep.